Manage Your Emotions to Succeed

Passion is an amazing thing. When you feel passionate about what you’re doing, everything seems to be a little easier…to go a little smoother. Your enthusiasm for your passion literally transforms you and you, in turn, transform the world around you. Passion isn’t limited to our love lives or our favorite hobbies. Passion can suffuse every aspect of your life – especially your professional life. With our easy-to-learn and simple-to-use tools, you’ll release your inner enthusiasm to help you find the joy and balance that are right for you.

Bit passion without understanding…without management…is like an out of control storm. It’s filled with power, but left undirected it can have devastating effects. Therefore, in addition to releasing your passion, we’ll help you learn to analyze, understand and control your emotional responses. In doing so, you’ll open the pathway to your true feelings and passions about every aspect of your life. The results will amaze you.

MANAGEMENT SKILLS

Many things help us succeed in life: upbringing, education, genetics, and, of course, passion. Yet, most people don’t realize that the single most important skill you must possess in order to be succeed in the world isn’t an advanced degree, technical training or special skills. The key to success is how well you manage your emotions.

What Does Mean To MANAGE EMOTIONS?

Emotional management is the ability to express yourself appropriately and interact effectively with others. It means knowing the right time to be confrontational, conciliatory, forthright, guarded, impulsive, and to select the appropriate action from the full spectrum of emotional responses that are available to us. Good emotional management will have far-reaching positive effects on every aspect of your life.

In 1936, Dale Carnegie published How to Win Friends and Influence People, a thought-provoking book that revolutionized the way people related to one another. Through extensive research, Carnegie had discovered that technical skills did not make a successful businessperson. Instead, he learned that 85% of business success is due to effective interpersonal relationships.

Since its publication nearly more than half a century ago, Carnegie’s book has sold more than 15 million copies. The reason is simple: some things never change…human interaction is one of them. What was true fifty years ago is still true today: Your ability to be emotionally interested in others and balanced in your emotional responses is the primary ingredient to your personal and professional success. To put it simply: You must manage your emotions to manage your life.

EM in the WORKPLACE

Emotional management in a professional setting can be especially challenging. Your responses to co-workers and supervisors are complex and may have roots OUTSIDE the office.

The first step in managing your emotions is getting a handle on them. To do that, simply start by asking yourself these three key questions. Use them to handle on-the-spot emotions in a business or professional setting.

What emotion am I feeling?
Is my emotional response appropriate?
What choice do I have?

The first question clarifies which of your emotions is dominant. Just like watching your thoughts, you can Take-3 Joy Breaths, and observe which emotion is moving through you.

The second question looks as your emotional response in the context of the situation and your relationship with the person to whom you’re speaking; i.e., the company president or the receptionist.

The third question is the heart of the matter. It helps you analyze whether the emotional response you’re feeling is effective in your situation; whether it’s working for you right now.

If you wish to delve more deeply into the thoughts behind the emotions and your need to continue with a pattern that doesn’t work for you, then use these additional questions for managing personal emotions:

Which of my thoughts create this emotional pattern?
What do I think I need or will get by responding this way?

These additional questions bring greater insight into the energy behind your emotional reactions. With the understanding you gain, you can make decisions that advance your goals rather than hinder them.

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